The Best Age to Get Married

Rumor has it longtime couple Jessica Biel and Justin Timberlake are engaged. Nice! This twosome seem to have a lot going for them—they’re both gorgeous, talented, and great at keeping deets of their love life on the DL. According to the experts, they have something else on their side that ups the odds they’ll live happily ever after: their age.
The Magic Number
Experts swear couples have the best odds of making it for the long haul if they wait until 25 to get hitched. And at 29 (JB) and 30 (JT), these two are in a great position to have a happy, stable marriage. There are practical reasons for the mid-20s dividing line, and most of them boil down to two biggies: education and money. Turns out, the more years of higher education a woman has under her belt on her wedding day, the lower the chances that she’ll get divorced…and by 25, you’re more likely to have earned a degree or two. “Educated women tend to be more confident about who they are and less willing to settle for a man who doesn’t meet their standards,” explains Terri Orbuch, PhD, author of Five Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great.
Odds are that by 25 you’re also supporting yourself, so there’s less incentive for you to rush into marriage because you’re seeking financial security from him.
But the marriage-related benefits of working and having money of your own go beyond feeling secure, says Pepper Schwartz, PhD, author of Finding Your Perfect Match. Learning to budget your cash carefully when you’re single will help you avoid financial problems—one of the main causes of couple fights—for the rest of your life. And juggling responsibilities, dealing with differing personalities, and resolving conflicts on the job force you to develop skills that are necessary for maintaining long-term love.
Knowing the Real You
At 25, you’ve had time for some crucial life experiences, including a relationship or two that may have improved your Mr. Right radar. Jessica, for example, was linked to Captain America star Chris Evans and Derek Jeter before she started dating Justin. “You’ve probably dated enough to have a better idea of what you don’t want in a man, which makes it easier to know what you can live with and can’t live without,” says Orbuch.
Perhaps the most important aspect of waiting is that you’ll know what your goals and values really are, says Paul Coleman, PsyD, author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Intimacy. While you don’t want to marry someone just like you, marriage is a lot easier if you two share a similar outlook on life.
Twenty-four and already married to the man of your dreams? Don’t worry: Many young marriages survive. But given the choice, you might consider putting off the big day until your mid-20s or later.

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How Long Should You Be Dating Before You Get Married?
Meeting, getting engaged, and tying the knot faster than a season of Gossip Girl sounds so passionate and romantic. But rushing to the altar isn’t such a smart move. In fact, experts agree that you should wait at least a year to make sure you and your guy are really a match—for a few simple, common sense reasons:

You need more than a few months to see your worst sides.
It can take a good six months or so to remove the love-coloured glasses and begin to really see the other person, flaws and all. That’s because the longer you steadily date, the more you get out of your comfort zones and settle into a routine—and that’s when your true personalities emerge. Is he lazy about doing household chores? Is he disrespectful to your family and friends? Experiencing different scenarios together can help size up whether you two are right for each other, says Linda Miles, PhD, author of The New Marriage.
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You need time for the early-stage dopamine haze to clear.
This is the brain chemical that’s responsible for triggering that head-over-heels feeling when you first get together. Dopamine makes us feel overly positive, which can mask the fact that maybe your union doesn’t have long-term legs, says Miles. That high usually starts to wear off in six months to a year, and those behaviors you thought you could live with or were even cute and quirky—for example, his forgetfulness or penchant for being 10 minutes late for everything—suddenly become super annoying potential deal breakers.

It takes time to find out if your future plans sync up.
Before you can determine if your love will go the distance, you need enough time to go by to make sure you have similar outlooks on handling money, whether you want kids, where you want to live, and other crucial thoughts about the future. “To sustain a relationship, couples have to share common goals, values, and interests along with sexual attraction and emotional maturity,” says Christine Meinecke, PhD, author of Everybody Marries the Wrong Person.

We’re not saying that marriage can never work for couples who tie the knot sooner than a year—but if you can put time on your side, what’s the rush? After all, if he’s really The One, then even after one year, he still will be.

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12th of Never ...

Never - Common law all the way. ::

hey , i hit send b4 you !.......... hahaha  ::rofl::

there is a difference between....

shacking up with one person (common law and a commitment)

and

sleeping with a different person every time (based on wuukbench rules

so in effect you two men did not really agree ...... except no to marriage

did i make any sense there  ::

Great minds think a like tho. ::

No !

and fools seldom differ

Touche.